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People want change … enough is enough !!

Family courts – Many think they are absolutely disgraceful in dealing with their case. Many think they have saved the lives of children in need. So where is the balance right now


So you’re having a terrible time with your ex, you’ve stopped communicating, and now they’ve decided to go to court. Result !!! That’s all you need. If you are the nonresident parent you are now thinking that this isn’t good news – and you’d be right. Now going to court should be a good thing to do in principle. Think about it, if someone does something illegal, they get punished right? Well Family Courts ‘seem’ to be different. I have asked the question lately if people think Family Court is held in the same esteem as let say ‘regular’ court. The answer is a resounding NO !!

Is it all about the money ??


Many people believe it’s about money. Now whether or not this statement is right, I’m not sure, but money does seem to come up an awful lot when discussing Family Courts. Lawyers aren’t cheap, and if you’ve got a divorce in the mix also, your bank balance could take a hammering. Indeed many people simply cannot afford to carry on with court proceedings which surely is not right.


When dealing with your children and money, it goes without saying that emotions run wild. Add in child support or maintenance, and a combustible situation is imminent. This is where your mental health comes under attack. Dealing with the constant stress and pressure will inevitably take its toll, and in many situations, being away from your children will make you question your very existence. What you won’t understand, is that it is normal. Of course you are going to feel like your world is coming to an end, because let’s be honest, it has.


My advice here is, get some help. I thought I could power through, but I couldn’t do it on my own.

I know I keep going on about physical fitness when it comes to mental health improvement, so if you don’t believe me, take a look at this from huffingtonpost.com


So, back to the courts. What discourages people so much, is that perjury seems to be allowed in Family Court. Lies will go unpunished, and lawyers twist things so that they fall under laws that are meant to be there to protect children who are in actual harm’s way. It’s a convenient way for people to get what they want. How many times have there been allegations of domestic violence, or alcoholism, or drug use, just because they are the buzz terms that make judges very nervous?

You can see how impossible the situation has now become.

At the centre of all this mess, is the child. Totally innocent in all of it.

If you are lucky enough to still have contact with your child after all this, then where does that leave them. Will they suffer either way? Now there are situations where both parents put the child’s interests first, and subside their feelings towards each other. These parents should be highly praised.

The main concern we at Absent have is the relationship with the child. What good is contact if your relationship with your child is being tarnished by the other parent. What impact will that have on their childhood? All extremely difficult questions to answer, and what is the right thing to do for everyone.

If like me, you have decided not to enter a ‘tug of war’ with your children, and let them go to remove them from the toxic situation, then like me, you are probably wondering how you will ever get that relationship back.

Enter Absent 

That is why Absent will change the way we connect with our loved ones. Absent focuses on the relationship. It builds the bridges burnt when you are a victim of parental alienation.

What Absent also does is help anyone reach out to someone they love and want to reconcile. A brilliant idea if I do say so myself 🙂


Along the way, you have a place of calmness to go. It will help you deal with your problems as journaling with the knowledge that they will see this will give you a tremendous sense of satisfaction. No longer will you feel like you are sinking into the abyss. At last, a chance to level the playing field.